Relationship Building
Which builds a relationship’s strength more – the ability to have a good time with someone or the ability to have a good fight with someone?
Liturgy
For some people at certain times in their lives, membership in a group, club, organization – you can read ‘religion’ here if you wish – is made more attractive the more selective it is. The more odious, arbitrary, rigorous, and strict the rules, the more appealing it becomes. Why? For those people at those times it is harder for them enter through the eye of a needle than it is to go without obstructions.
Contracting & Expanding